Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Understanding rapists
Got this in a forwarded email: Through a Rapist's Eyes (No Joke)
This is important information for females of ALL ages. Guys - please
forward to the female members of your family and all your female friends and
associates.
A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on
what
they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting
facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle.They
are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or
other
hairstyle that can easily be grabbed . They are also likely to go after
a
woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look forwomen
who's clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors
around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look for women on their cell phone , searching through
their
purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off
guard
and
can be easily overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning,
between
5: 00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery
store
parking lots. Number two is office parking lots/garages. Number three
is
public restrooms.
6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a
woman and
quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry
about
getting caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year
sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get
discouragedbecause
it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you
isn't
worth it because it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,
or
other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.
Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to
the
attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these
guys
you're not worth it.
10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is
following
behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or
stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what
time
is
it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out
here",
"we're in for a bad winte r" Now you've seen their face and could
identify
them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you , hold out your hands in front
of you
and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to
said
they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not
be
afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate
of it
and carries it with him wherever he goes,) ! yell I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAYand
holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs you , you can't beat them with strength but
you can
by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind,
pinch
the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and
armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD . One woman in a
class
this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was
trying
to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore
out
muscle strands - the guy needed stitches.
Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it;
it
hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN I know from a
particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is
extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and!
make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our
instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of
trouble.
Start causing trouble, and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands up to you , grab his first two fingers
and
bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on
them
as possible . The instructor did it to me without using much pressure,
and I
ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware
of
your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any
odd
behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts
guy really was trouble.
PLEASE READ THEN FORWARD THIS TO EVERY WOMAN YOU KNOW, IT'S SIMPLE
STUFF
BUT IT COULD SAVE HER LIFE.....
Labels: eve-teasing, gender, rape, safety, women
